You know what’s terrible?
It’s when you walk into a shop IN NIQAAB & ask the muslim owners present if the masjid is already open for jumu’ah.
He looks @ me in awe & says ” are you going to masjid?”
“Yes”, I reply.
To which he says “It should be open in 15-20mins”
“Ok Insha-Allah. Shukran” is my response.
“Or maybe it’s open now”, he says as he smiles at me. So I decide to buy something from this shop & as I’m searching for my money, the brother says : “are you a wife?”
Now I’m looking @ this brother, & because I know he’s somalian & speaks arabic, I automatically incline to speaking arabic with him.
So he says: “are you a wife?”
& I reply “no” ( forgive me if this is wrong, but I need to work on my “don’t respond when strange males speak to you” scenarios)
So he says “why not?”
I can’t recall my reply but again he asks me if I’m a wife (& at this point I’m wondering if saying نَعَم “yes” would be the safer thing to say… Just to get the brother off my back.
Instead I reply
لا لَسْتُ مُتَزَوِّج
& I’m feeling so bad because subhaanAllah! This is almost inappropriate talk between a male & female. It was at that moment, that I realised that prior enquiries had all lead up to a specific moment. THAT moment!
Eventually… I pay for my things & leave, wondering why in heaven this always has to happen to me.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not complaining because I know its the decree of Allah & there’s lesson in it for me. I know that this had to pan out this way so that I never tread that same path again.
But is it REALLY difficult for a male to understand that there are females in cape town, who study @ a madrasa, don niqaab & attend masjid every once in a while.
Is it REALLY that difficult to just deal with a female to the extent required and leave her be.
It’s at moments like this, that I truly wish I were married. Because when a brother asks me if I’m married, one of two answers he’ll get : “yes” & that’ll stop him in his tracks… Or “no” & indirectly give him leeway to continue speaking to you up close & ogling you from a distance.
May Allah safeguard us! Ameen.
We ask that Allah safeguard us all from the fitna & fasaad of this world & from the temptations of the opposite sex. May He protect our sight,minds,&hearts from the waswasa of Shaitaan & grant us goodness in the spouses we marry.
But more than that, may He love us, & bless us, & guide us to all those deeds which are pleasing to Him & making us true followers of our beloved master Rasoolullah, S.A.W. Ameen, Yaa Rabb al ‘aalameen! <3